1.你是否重视我？
有些女性想借此试探对方是否还重视自己，在一些女性的逻辑里，如果对方还爱自己，就应该在这种时候加倍的对自己好，这样她才会觉得心安。如果此时男人没有表现出她期待的态度，那么这种冷暴力就会持续，甚至变本加厉。
2.没有你我也会很好
一般都是在男人做错事，或者做了女性认为错的事以后才发生的。有些女性想让男人知道自己就算没有对方也能过得很好，因此会摆出冷漠、疏离的态度。她希望男人在觉得不受重视，面临了失去的恐惧之后学会珍惜。
3.其实我不知道该怎么办
也有些女性是由于缺乏处理矛盾的经验，因此当两个人相处出现一系列矛盾时，不懂得如何去沟通，会采取逃避的方式解决，而不是直面矛盾。
4.冷静下来再说
有的 females 使用“cold violence”的出发点是好的，不想和自己的love一个人有正面的冲突。希望让双方都停下来冷静地思考，避免在生气的时候双方都会有一些过激的话语给彼此留下永久性的阴影。
5.you why not come to comfort me?
有的一些 females 从小被娇惯，有性格较为任性，当与人相处中多以自我为中心。当双方出现矛盾时，要来哄她。
Marriage and relationship experts also suggest that when you encounter problems, it's best to take a step back and let things cool down before they escalate further - but "cooling off" is not the same as "cold violence." The key difference is that "cooling off" is done with the intention of resolving the issue, while "cold violence" is used as a form of punishment.
When a woman's cold violence doesn't get the reaction she was hoping for, the gap between them grows wider. So when faced with issues in your relationship, cold violence isn't an option - instead, communication should be increased.
Don't expect your partner to understand what's going on in your mind; just tell them directly instead.
